I just want to point out a few things that Heller said that backs up what you and me are saying:
“In order for her to fulfill herself - even if she eventually fulfills herself with Jane, which she may or may not do - she has to find other relationships, other perspectives, other people who love her, just to feel fully who she is.”
To fulfill herself means she has to satisfy herself in terms that she has to make sure this is what she wants; that even after she had options other than Jane to satisfy her as a female, she chose Jane herself. She did it because for her there was nobody else for her but Jane, and you only know how much you want something when you have something to compare it to [totally stole that from my mom, but it is true]. She has to be let go to be a woman for god sake. Especially when you get that she basically upended her life for over 12 years to help him in his quest for his happiness which came from revenge. She didn’t step back and address her own needs because she was too busy fulfilling Jane’s desires. She has to discover the way to Jane, and her having a boyfriend is her opportunity to travel down one road to get to another. She is this woman who does so much for everyone including Jane, and the poor woman is confused! She doesn’t want to overstep boundaries with Jane that he might not be ready for, and this also provides a good way for Jane to lay his heart on the line and tell her how he feels before he loses out on the best thing in his life.
And yes, he wants her happy, and he would let her be happy with this guy, but only if he was truly sure her heart was into the boyfriend. If there is even a shadow of a doubt in Jane’s mind that Lisbon isn’t exactly reciprocating the same level of feelings for the boyfriend, I have no doubt he will let her know, and call her on it.
I just think this is a necessary plot. And, yes, it is a plot device. It’s a device to make Lisbon and Jane see that the only two people who can ever be on the same level with each other emotionally is each other, and it will show them both just how much they mean to one another when one is no longer available for their own personal relationship.
"Now that Red John is gone, both Jane and Lisbon are sort of psychically free to wake up and look around and what they see when they wake up from that nightmare is each other,” he previews. “And how that relationship develops and how they sort of start working out who they are to each other is a big part of how the rest of this season unfolds.”
This falls right in with what I said above. The boyfriend is essentially the glue for Jisbon to come together. Lisbon and Jane are going to see that they don’t quite like this new environment where they are no longer the only object to each other, and they are going to realize when all is said and done that if they don’t move on things, they might not get another chance. It will wake them up to the point where they look at each other and say “I can’t love anyone like you. I tried, and I failed. It’s not the same.” because Lisbon has tested the waters, and evidently, he isn’t Jane, and she would respect her boyfriend enough to let him go.
And for Jane, too. This whole thing will make him see that she isn’t going to be waiting for him forever. Lisbon has done her waiting, and if he can’t get his shit together and finally learn that he is ready to move on, she can be gone just like that, and he will have lost out on the very thing that brought him back and that he cares about. He doesn’t give a deep crap about Kim. He didn’t come back for Kim. He didn’t run back to Kim, he ran back to Lisbon, and he is going to realize that she is the one he wants, and if he is going to get her, he has to move quickly. Baby Lisbon isn’t putting her life on hold because he isn’t ready.
Lisbon has to chose Jane with other options available to her, so she knows she had a whole other path she could have taken, but she chose the one that had Jane on it, because she has been waiting for him her whole life; the one who saved her from herself, and ultimately, she will pick him because nobody can ever add up to Jane for her. She will compare the feelings she has for both, and see that Jane wins her heart every time.
oh my goOOOOOOOOOD
TERESA LISBON IS GETTING A BOYFRIEND
BRUNO HELLER HAS BEEN LISTENING TO MY PRAYERS AND TEARS
and o god o god o god that means we’re getting a jelly jane and he’s going to be throwing gigantic jane tantrums and being SO jealous because jane and lisbon are such a UNIT and he…